I’ve been using a new question over the last week in all kinds of incidents that could have led to confrontation…(LWT, Take 5: Avoiding Confrontation)
In each case, before engaging, or before allowing my ego to engage, I ask, “What is more important right now?” Usually, the answer is not winning a battle, but peace and calm and presence of mind.
Two parables from a New Earth spoke to me as I continue to reflect on this topic of Avoiding Confrontation and Remaining Present.
The first is “The Duck With The Human Mind” on p. 137
After a fight, two ducks will usually separate and go their own ways. “If a duck had a human mind, it would keep the fight alive by thinking, by story-making.” … “Flap your wings – which translates to “let go of the story” – and return to the only place of power: the present moment.”
The second is the story of the Zen monks Tanzan & Ekido on p. 139.
“I put the girl down hours ago,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”
How are you doing with this? We’d love to know.