Comments on: TS: Romantic Relationships & Eckhart Tolle: with Brendon Lumgair, Christine Lumgair, and Dr. Sarah Larsen

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[...] this Teleseminar recording, Christine and I have a dialogue interview with Greg Larsen (from LivingWithTolle.com) and his wife Sarah. We discuss different perspectives on how Eckhart Tolle’s teachings can help [...]

By: Greg

Greg — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 23:52:24 +0000

Thanks Terry for sharing your experience! It’s great to hear that you feel more love and connection than ever!!

Intimate, romantic relationships offer such a power opportunity to grow in presence or can be a playground for the ego. There can be so much deep connection and wonder, yet deep pain and suffering. Now that I am conscious I have found my relationship with Sarah a significant area for growth in my life.

Like you Terry, my relationship with Sarah just keeps getting better as we each grow in presence together. And the growth has been accelerated by our conscious choice to work through all the pain-body flare-ups the first few years of our marriage. The pain became fuel for our growth.

Hey Richard ~ thanks for your comments and your mention of duality as a reason Eckhart does not spend much time on relationships is something I have never considered. I really don’t know myself but you may be onto something.

Thanks so much guys for participation in this conversation!

Greg

By: Richard Shelmerdine

Richard Shelmerdine — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:41:58 +0000

Eckhart tends to avoid talking about Relationships too much. I think it might be because relationships mean you have to consider duality. Either way it was great to hear all of you talking and get some fresh viewpoints. It was great and long .

By: Terry Lyle

Terry Lyle — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 01:06:50 +0000

Thanks for another very interesting teleseminar.
My wife Dorothy and I will celebrate our 35th anniversary in 2010. As I listened to your discussion, I thought back to those times when we were finding our way, not so much spiritually (although that certainly was part of our lives) but in living day to day. I found myself wishing we had known then what we know now. It’s only been since 2007 that we became awakened to our current understanding of life.
None-the-less,in hind-sight, our’s has been a wonderful life together. Like all of you we searched out those things that would help us grow together and practiced what we could. Certainly, we had some difficult times. What could be otherwise with two pain bodies in coexistence? But somehow we had an eb and flow that allowed one of us to almost always be in the spot to be an anchor for the other one that was drifting.
We reared two children to adulthood with some success. We have achieved a good deal of rewards in our careers. Yet, time passes and all of those things you are striving for become less important. As Dorothy and I passed through our lives and then discovered Eckhart and others, we’ve reached a point in life where we our greatest gift is the presence of one another.
I wish this for you. It is astounding to look at the person who you’ve been married to for almost 35 years and feel more love and connection than you ever have.
But, we’ve had to learn lessons too. I had to laugh out loud at Brendon’s comment that “Guys don’t get hints”. And, I had to admit that is true. Brendon, you’ve provided a genuine service to all of us in admitting that truth. Let’s face it and move on.
Greg, you mentioned learning to let Sarah have her say without stepping in before she was done (or something similar). I’ve had to deal with that too. Nor just with my wife but all of the people I interupted because I had to “tell my story” or “save the day”. I find it a joy to be present as Dorothy expressed herself and just watch. I’m not perfect at it yet, but it’s a practice, eh?
I also connected with Sarah’s and Christine’s comments about the need to be recognized. Dorothy is there also. She often reminds me of her prescence by saying “It’s all about me”!. And I couldn’t agree with her more. If you knew her you would be startled by her comment. She has been the woman the Christine described (if I remember correctly) as the one who gives and cares and gives more. I am okay with her “taking” something for herself.
Now, I’ve gotten a bit off track here. I really want to say that I fully support the idea that couples who are on a similar track of spiritual growth have an amazing opportunity for real connection. The last (almost} 3 years now since Dorothy and I started on our own path have just grown more amazing at each step (and we were pretty good to begin with).
Okay, enough rambling and I agree that this subject is far too deep to cover in such a short time. I hope many will take advantage of your future programs.

Thanks again!
Terry

(as a side note, the link to Brendon and Christine’s site doesn’t work (at least on my computer.

By: Greg

Greg — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 23:39:58 +0000

You are welcome Brendon. That was a very fun and insightful conversation! Thanks to you and Christine for sharing your presence and wisdom with our community!

Peace and blessings,

Greg

By: Brendon Lumgair

Brendon Lumgair — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 17:25:42 +0000

Thanks Greg! This tele-seminar was a lot of fun with you and Sarah. Blessings to all of the member’s of Living With Tolle.